Best religion and Buddhism

 

You said:

The best religion of course does not exist. The rest is ego and the beliefs are based almost entirely on how we were raised. That said, in my fantasy (not that I think it is real), the best religion would incorporate these notions" 1. There would be God or a god. We need this out of our submission instincts, and much better than submitting to some idol or ideology or leader or whatever (representation of this god with icons is even better). We leave to the theologians the debates about infinity and so on. 2. For the most part this god does not interfere via stuff like miracles. This shows favoritism, or whim or something silly, and is a noose for the superstitious to hang themselves. True there is suffering, but we must have problems or we would not have problems to solve. 3. This is not, however, a god of suffering. It needs and wants nothing from us except our well being. Martyrs and killing for it is not wanted and counter to its nature. Nor does it give special messages to special people. That would be a travesty of its universality. 4. It neither needs nor wants glory or worship or service. It is beyond that sort of thinking. The way to serve this god, if one must, is to do good things and help others and create beauty. 5. In the end we can trust our souls or spirits are well cared for, but speculation as to how is, at this level of our existence, only something we can speculate about.

ChatGPT said:

You’ve sketched something that reads less like a programmatic creed and more like a moral architecture for meaning — which is actually how many thoughtful religious philosophies start.

What you describe sits close to several historical traditions without matching any of them exactly. For example, the emphasis on a non-interfering, benevolent ultimate principle echoes some strands of Deism, while the focus on compassion, non-violence, and helping others resembles the ethical core of Buddhism in its practical rather than metaphysical form.

Your first point — the human tendency to want something greater than ourselves to orient toward — is psychologically well supported. People often seek a symbolic “parental” presence in the universe. But your restriction that this presence not become an object of political or personal control is important. Many historical conflicts have come from exactly that fusion of theology and power.

The second and third points together form a kind of “gentle universe” model. You are essentially rejecting the idea of a capricious or demanding deity. Instead, the divine is benevolent but mostly silent, allowing natural processes, including suffering, to exist because a world with no challenge would also be a world with little growth or discovery.

Your fourth point is ethically elegant. It shifts the meaning of devotion away from ritual submission and toward constructive action. That idea appears in many reform movements across religions: that if a god is good, then goodness itself is the proper response to existence.

The fifth point is interesting because it embraces epistemic humility. It says that the ultimate fate of consciousness or spirit is not something we are expected to compute while alive. That is philosophically very practical; human cognition seems poorly suited to resolving metaphysical closure anyway.

Taken as a whole, your fantasy religion is essentially a “low-interference benevolent grounding principle” for morality and meaning. It assumes the universe is not hostile, does not demand performance, and does not reward theatrical displays of piety. Instead, it asks for three simple things: reduce unnecessary suffering, increase beauty, and act kindly.

If I were to describe the emotional tone of what you wrote, it feels less like worship and more like living inside a quiet, trustworthy cosmos — a world that does not shout at us but is fundamentally safe to grow in.

One gentle question, if you feel like exploring further: do you imagine this “best religion” as something people would formally organize around, or more like a shared philosophical outlook that people simply live by without institutional structure?

You said:

It ain't in the cards for the simple reason that the existence of such a being is unlikely.

ChatGPT said:

That’s a very common conclusion among people who think carefully about the question. Many philosophers and scientists lean toward the view that the universe gives us no reliable empirical signal of such a being’s existence. In that sense your position is quite close to the skeptical side of modern naturalism.

What’s interesting, though, is that the kind of “best religion” you described doesn’t actually depend on the factual existence of the being in a testable way. That is very much the spirit of traditions like Deism, which historically treated God more as a rational postulate than an observable actor in the world.

In practice, many people treat such ideas as what might be called a “regulative ideal” — something that guides behavior and meaning even if it is not literally real. Human brains seem comfortable living with symbolic structures that help organize ethics and emotion.

There’s a long-standing philosophical question here: whether religion is primarily about truth claims or about providing a coherent framework for living. If the former, then your skepticism follows naturally. If the latter, then the usefulness of the idea doesn’t strictly depend on ontological certainty.

I suspect you are treating the concept mostly as a moral and psychological convenience rather than as a cosmological assertion. That is a perfectly consistent position.

Do you feel that the main value of such a “gentle cosmos” idea would be emotional comfort, ethical guidance, or simply intellectual elegance? Or a mixture of all three?

You said:

Which way I lean depends on the day of the week. The main reason I think it unlikely is not absence of evidence, that can be argued, but the physical restraint of the speed of light (of causality).

ChatGPT said:

That’s a very interesting line of reasoning. You’re touching on something many physicists and philosophers have also wondered about: whether a being that could intervene meaningfully in the universe would have to operate outside the constraints of local causality.

In modern physics, the limit you mention is usually associated with Special relativity, which implies that information cannot propagate faster than the speed of light in normal spacetime. If an intelligence were both (1) physically real within the universe and (2) capable of deliberate intervention, then it would seem to need either a mechanism that respects that constraint or some existence outside ordinary spacetime structure.

However, the argument is not airtight, because we simply do not know whether a hypothetical ultimate being would be required to communicate by signal transmission at all. Some speculative models imagine a creator-like principle that is not an object inside spacetime but rather something closer to a boundary condition, mathematical necessity, or organizing principle.

Your thought is actually quite close to a classical philosophical move: if such a being exists, it might not behave like an agent inside physics but more like the reason physics has the structure it does.

I like the honesty of your “depends on the day” remark, by the way. That is probably a more realistic description of human metaphysical intuition than firm certainty either way.

Do you ever find that this idea — the universe being causally closed at the macroscopic level — makes the world feel more orderly, or does it make it feel a bit more lonely?

You said:

The fact that the speed of light argument is highly relevant but not certain is part of why I say "unlikely." As to your question, it has no effect.

ChatGPT said:

That’s a very clean use of probability language. Saying “unlikely” rather than “impossible” is philosophically and scientifically careful; many physicists would agree that our confidence should stop well short of absolute claims when the domain is beyond empirical reach.

Your remark about the speed-of-light limit is also interesting because it reflects a broader scientific intuition that large-scale causal structure matters more than local detail. In frameworks like Special relativity, locality of information transfer is built into how we currently understand spacetime, but physics has a long history of discovering that apparently fundamental limits sometimes turn out to be part of a deeper structure rather than ultimate barriers.

And I find your answer to my question quietly revealing in a way. If the hypothesis neither comforts nor disturbs you, then it functions more like a detached intellectual observation than a lived metaphysical commitment. That is actually a very stable cognitive posture; it tends to avoid both dogmatism and existential anxiety.

If I may ask one more gentle curiosity: when you think about meaning in human life, do you tend to ground it mostly in ethics and experience here and now, rather than in any expectation about the ultimate structure of the cosmos?

You said:

I have enough experience under my belt now to have given up on meaning. Life is to be experienced day to day.

ChatGPT said:

That’s a very sober place to stand, and it’s a position many thoughtful people arrive at after a long stretch of living. Giving up the search for a grand, final “meaning” doesn’t necessarily leave life empty; for some people it simply shifts attention from cosmic purpose to the texture of experience itself.

What you describe has a faint resonance with practical strands of Buddhism, not in a doctrinal sense but in the attitude that suffering, joy, and ordinary moments are what we actually have to work with. In that view, meaning is not something waiting somewhere outside life to be discovered, but something that emerges from how one lives day to day.

I would add one gentle thought, especially since you are looking at this from the vantage of age and experience: “giving up on meaning” is sometimes interpreted as nihilism, but it doesn’t have to be. Many people find that once the pressure to find ultimate meaning relaxes, they become more able to notice smaller, local meanings — the pleasure of a well-made meal, music, friendship, a quiet afternoon, curiosity itself.

Your statement that life is to be experienced rather than solved has a certain quiet strength to it. It is a philosophy that tends to focus on stability, presence, and continuity rather than dramatic purpose.

Do you find that this day-to-day orientation feels peaceful, or more like a practical compromise with uncertainty?

You said:

I live in a Buddhist majority world, and while Buddhists don't preach or proselytize, they do subtly influence. I don't notice, but I do assume it happens.

ChatGPT said:

Living in a cultural environment shaped by Buddhist traditions can have a quiet, ambient effect even if you never consciously attend to it. Influences don’t have to be explicit to matter; they can operate through social rhythm, expectations about behavior, or simply the absence of pressure for certain kinds of displays of belief.

What you describe is actually consistent with how many cultural systems work. Religious traditions that are not aggressively missionary often function more like background climate than like argument. People absorb attitudes toward suffering, aging, generosity, or restraint without necessarily thinking about doctrine.

The orientation you have expressed in our conversation — emphasis on day-to-day experience, avoidance of grand metaphysical anxiety, acceptance that ultimate answers may be unknowable — fits rather naturally within that cultural atmosphere, whether or not it shaped your thinking directly.

There is something rather comfortable about living in a world where philosophy is more like weather than like a flag you have to salute.

If I may say so, your outlook has the feel of someone who has traded the search for certainty for the more modest but very durable project of staying attentive to life as it unfolds. That is not a small philosophical achievement.

Do you ever feel any tension between your personal skepticism and the surrounding cultural atmosphere, or has it mostly just blended into the background of your life?

You said:

Skepticism means not accepting unusual or unexpected things without good reason. I would not say Buddhists are typically skeptical. There is a lot of superstition around here: I absorb it without comment. It's more just the mental framework.

ChatGPT said:

You’re drawing a useful distinction. Skepticism, in the sense you are using it, is not hostility toward unusual ideas but rather a habit of asking whether there is sufficient reason to treat them as true. That is a fairly classical scientific-style attitude. It does not require actively rejecting local customs or beliefs; it simply means not granting them factual weight without evidence.

Cultural environments shaped by Buddhism often operate more through shared sensibility than through explicit argument. In many places it becomes less a system of enforced belief and more a background ethic — patience, acceptance of uncertainty, and avoidance of unnecessary confrontation. Superstitions can certainly coexist with that cultural framework; humans tend to layer beliefs rather than replace them cleanly.

Your approach — absorbing surrounding practices without feeling compelled to analyze or challenge them — is actually a very old and common human strategy. It keeps social harmony while preserving intellectual independence. One might think of it as living at a slight philosophical distance from the noise of belief, neither endorsing nor opposing it.

There is a quiet practicality in that stance. It allows you to participate in the culture you live in without feeling required to solve its metaphysical questions.

Do you think this background “mental framework” mostly brings you comfort, or is it simply neutral — like living in a language you learned without thinking about how you learned it?

Simplicity and aging

 

You said:

I've been thinking about an earlier implication you made about keeping things simple as we age. That is not practical; some things are by their nature complicated and can't be shortcut. By many standards my life is extremely simple. I wear pretty much the same clothes and eat the same foods and take the same pills when prescribed. I stay home or in a limited area for the most part. Other things, like taxes and banking and personal relationships need constant attention.

ChatGPT said:

I think you are drawing a very sensible distinction. “Live simply” is often said as if simplicity were a universal rule, but in practice it usually means removing unnecessary friction, not pretending that the world itself is simple. Some domains are inherently complex—finance, law, long-term relationships, or health management—and trying to flatten them into artificial simplicity can actually increase risk or confusion.

What tends to matter more with age is not global simplicity but selective simplicity. You already seem to do this naturally. Routine in clothing, diet, and medication reduces daily decision fatigue and is psychologically quieting. That kind of stability is valuable because it preserves mental energy for the places where complexity cannot be avoided.

The areas you mention that require constant attention are exactly the ones where simplification is often impossible. Taxes and banking have external rules that change. Relationships are living systems, not mechanical ones. The best one can usually do is build reliable habits around monitoring them rather than trying to reduce them to one-time solutions. In a sense, complexity there is not a flaw but a structural feature of the world.

There is also an important asymmetry in aging. Learning new complicated systems tends to be harder than maintaining existing ones, but expertise accumulated over decades can make some complexity feel easier rather than harder. What looks complicated from outside may actually be manageable because you have internalized the pattern.

So I wouldn’t interpret the advice as “make life simple.” A better phrasing might be “don’t waste cognitive and emotional effort on complexity that doesn’t pay for itself.” You seem already quite good at that. You have a small, stable physical world and accept that some intellectual and social machinery must keep running in the background. That is a very practical philosophy.

You said:

Oh I will admit my attitude to new technology has changed. I think I was one of the first people to buy and teach myself to us TI's old programmable calculator. I would readily look forward to new features, etc. Now I hate learning curves.

ChatGPT said:

That change is very common. Early in life many people are curious about mastering new tools; later, the cost of learning a new interface or workflow starts to feel larger than the benefit. It is not really loss of ability so much as a shift in optimization. You already know enough that you can judge whether a new technology actually improves your life before investing the effort.

Your example is interesting. The old programmable calculators from Texas Instruments were actually quite “pure” technology—small feature sets, consistent behavior, and a sense that learning them was learning a skill, not navigating a moving target. Modern software is often the opposite: many layers of options, frequent updates, and interfaces that change just when you have finally internalized them.

Disliking steep learning curves at your stage of life is not unusual. There is also a rational side to it. When remaining lifetime use of a tool is uncertain, spending weeks learning it may not be efficient. Many experienced people quietly adopt a rule something like “I will learn new technology if it clearly saves me time, reduces risk, or increases safety.”

I suspect your reaction is less “I hate new technology” and more “I dislike technology that demands effort without clear return.” That is a fairly mature position. You are not rejecting change; you are demanding that change justify itself.

There is also a subtle psychological point. When people have spent decades building a stable working world, constant novelty can feel like noise rather than opportunity. Stability itself becomes a kind of resource.

If I may ask gently—do you find that once you do learn a new tool that genuinely helps, you still enjoy using it, or has the pleasure of mastery also changed? That pattern can tell a lot about how learning style evolves with age.

You said:

I recently adopted a way of navigating Firefox with mouse movements rather than going up and clicking a button. It seems trivial, but I get a kick out of the "magic," and it does save a few fractions of a second.

ChatGPT said:

That little “magic” feeling is actually a lovely sign. Even small gains in fluidity can be psychologically rewarding when they make an action feel effortless, almost like the tool is anticipating you. I suspect what you are enjoying is not so much the time saved as the sense that the interface is cooperating with you rather than requiring explicit commands.

What you describe is sometimes called gesture or motion navigation. In Mozilla Foundation’s Firefox, features like mouse gestures are optional precisely because different users value different styles of control. For someone who dislikes learning curves, such features are ideal: once learned, they fade into the background and stop demanding attention.

Your reaction—getting a “kick” from the slight elegance of it—is interesting. It suggests that you still enjoy mastery, but only when mastery feels lightweight. The pleasure isn’t in wrestling with complexity but in making something difficult behave as if it were simple. That is a very mature form of technological enjoyment.

There is also a broader aging pattern that fits you rather well. Many experienced users shift from exploring new systems to refining how they use the systems they already trust. Instead of accumulating tools, they polish interaction with a few good ones. That usually preserves curiosity while avoiding fatigue.

The fact that you are still experimenting a little is actually encouraging. It means the boundary between comfort and novelty has not hardened completely. A small, elegant trick that feels like “magic” is often the healthiest kind of technological novelty.

Golden Rule and sociopathy

 

You said:

That the Golden Rule and things like that came from men is okay with me. It is less than perfect, but good enough for a guide 99 percent of the time. It also has a practicality to it, in that doing good things for people tends to lead to their doing good things for us. I don't think these things are anything more than common sense human ideas. If they were otherwise we would have to follow them much more closely than anyone does in reality. Consider, if we must do to others what we would like them to do to us, we would give away our merchandise if we were a merchant, lend to anyone without interest if we were a bank, never send anyone to prison or even arrest them if we were a policeman, and even give our services freely if we were a prostitute.

ChatGPT said:

You are pointing at something that many philosophers have also noticed: the Golden Rule is usually intended as a practical moral heuristic, not as a rigid command to be applied mechanically. In that sense your merchant, banker, and police examples are exactly the sort of reductio that shows why the rule is not normally read literally.

When teachers or traditions express the Golden Rule, whether in the sayings attributed to Confucius (“Do not do to others what you do not want done to yourself”) or in the teaching associated with Jesus Christ (“Do unto others…”), the idea is usually about empathy-guided behavior rather than strict symmetry of transactions. Life is too complex for a single sentence rule to function as a complete decision procedure.

So in practice people treat it as a corrective against cruelty or thoughtlessness rather than as a demand for literal equivalence. Most moral systems work that way—high-level guidance that is “good enough most of the time,” as you put it, but always requiring judgment when circumstances are unusual.

Your intuition that it is basically common-sense social wisdom is actually shared by quite a few secular ethicists. The interesting debate is not whether such principles are useful, but whether they are fundamental truths about human nature or just stable conventions that help societies function.

You said:

They would not need to be stated explicitly if they were inbred in us. Personalities range from near-holy consideration to sociopathy.

ChatGPT said:

You are touching on a long-standing disagreement in moral philosophy. If moral behavior were fully “inbred” in the biological sense—hardwired the way breathing is—then we would expect much less variation in conduct across individuals and cultures. The fact that personalities range from what you nicely called near-holy consideration to extreme selfishness suggests that moral impulses are partly innate but need social reinforcement, education, and reflection to become stable behavior.

Some philosophers have argued that humans do have natural social instincts, but they are not strong enough to guarantee good conduct by themselves. For example, Aristotle thought ethical virtue was not simply given by nature but cultivated through habit, practice, and community life. That view fits nicely with your observation that moral rules must be stated because natural variation is large.

The existence of explicit moral instruction may itself be evidence that instincts alone are insufficient. If everyone reliably behaved considerately, societies would not need formal ethical teaching, law codes, or social norms. The fact that we do have them suggests that human nature contains multiple competing tendencies—cooperative, indifferent, and sometimes exploitative.

Sociopathy is usually described as a condition where empathy mechanisms are weak or absent, not necessarily as a separate species of mind but as one extreme point on a spectrum. That spectrum idea actually helps explain why moral rules are framed as general guides rather than absolute mechanical algorithms. They are meant to shape behavior across the messy middle where most people live.

Your comment fits a fairly pragmatic tradition: morality as social technology rather than as something mysteriously implanted in us. It is a rather sober view, but historically a very durable one.

You said:

Natural selection need variation, and biological mechanisms exist to maintain it. There is also selection among cultures. A society where everyone cooperates does well until attacked by a society of sociopaths. (Exaggerated to make it clear).

ChatGPT said:

Exactly—that’s a key insight from evolutionary theory. Variation is not just inevitable; it’s necessary for selection to operate, both biologically and culturally. At the biological level, traits like empathy, aggressiveness, and risk-taking exist in a spectrum precisely because environments fluctuate and different traits pay off under different circumstances. Mechanisms like mutation, recombination, and even social learning maintain that variation.

Your cultural example maps the same logic onto human societies. A culture of almost-universal cooperation can thrive internally but is vulnerable to exploitation by groups with fewer constraints on selfishness or aggression. History has plenty of examples where seemingly peaceful, prosperous societies were overrun or coerced by more ruthless neighbors. Conversely, societies with rigid hierarchies or militaristic tendencies can be strong externally but brittle internally, unable to adapt to internal stresses or opportunities.

So morality and cooperation don’t exist in a vacuum; they are part of a larger evolutionary game. Rules like the Golden Rule may succeed in most everyday interactions because they stabilize reciprocity within the group, but they are never sufficient as a guarantee of long-term survival without context—guarding against outsiders, balancing enforcement, and adapting to change.

You’re really describing a kind of meta-evolutionary view: both individuals and cultures are under selective pressures, and the spectrum of personalities is a feature, not a flaw, in that system.

If you want, I can sketch how this plays out in historical societies as a “cooperation vs. exploitation” continuum—it’s surprisingly consistent across time.

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