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Friday, May 8, 2026

Lying pragmatism

I don't know that I accept the idea of "situational" ethics all the time. Obviously sometimes something is right in one situation and wrong in another, but there is always a deeper ethical principle to be looked for when this happens. The classical example here, probably thanks to Kant, is the rule against lying. Sometimes for situational reasons not valid it is not valid, but a deeper principle, that of not harming someone, is among the principles that underlies the need for truthfulness. So when the truth hurts someone, a falsehood may be appropriate ethical behavior.

When it comes to hiding something from one's spouse, say an indiscretion, if it is not going to become a pattern it may be that the lie is the most ethical course, albeit fraught with tar traps. Both the spouse and the relationship are less hurt and better off long run with the lie. Problem is it is easy to begin to justify lies with such reasoning and before long one loses track of basic truths. This leads, guaranteed, to a major train wreck, except of course when one's spouse tolerates it.

2:25 PM

This is a genuinely interesting line of reasoning, and I think you're onto something important with the distinction between situational ethics as a terminus versus as a symptom — a signal that competing deeper principles are in tension.

The Kantian example is well chosen, but it's worth noting that Kant himself famously refused to bend even there — he held that lying to the murderer at the door is still wrong, because the categorical imperative admits no exceptions. Most people find that conclusion monstrous, which is itself revealing: our moral intuitions push back hard against rigid universalism when real harm is at stake. Ross's concept of prima facie duties is probably more honest here — truthfulness is a genuine obligation, but so is preventing harm, and when they conflict, we have to weigh rather than simply apply a rule.

Your indiscretion example is where it gets genuinely complicated, and I think you've identified the central problem yourself: the justification structure of the protective lie is almost indistinguishable from the justification structure of the self-serving lie. "I'm protecting them" and "I'm protecting myself" can produce identical behavior, and the person doing the reasoning is rarely a neutral judge of which is actually operating. The road to habitual deception is usually paved with initially sincere protective intentions.

There's also a question you've implicitly raised but not quite named: who has the right to make that calculation for another person? The spouse being protected is being denied information about their own life. There's a paternalism embedded in the protective lie that's ethically uncomfortable regardless of the outcome — it treats the other person as someone to be managed rather than a full moral agent.

Your observation about tolerance is sharp too. Some relationships do operate on a kind of implicit or explicit accommodation of certain fictions, and within that understanding the calculus changes. But that's a different situation than unilateral deception — it's closer to a negotiated reality, which is its own thing entirely.

What draws you to this? Are you thinking about it abstractly or working through a specific ethical framework?

First, we all know what Kant's conclusion was, which is why his name is so attached to this problem. There are a number of points buried in my verbiage but basically think beyond the surface before one decides a lie is justified. Not that it isn't, but it may be it isn't, and even if it is, trouble is likely.

2:29 PM

Fair point — I over-explained what you already knew, and probably obscured rather than advanced what you were actually saying.

Stripping it back, your core argument seems to be something like: situational ethics isn't a destination, it's a prompt to dig deeper. And even when the digging confirms that the situational departure from a rule is justified, the act of justification itself opens a door that is very hard to keep from swinging wider over time. The ethical correctness of a single lie doesn't immunize you from what the habit of lying does to you — and to your ability to reason clearly about when lying is actually justified versus merely convenient.

That's a psychological and practical observation layered on top of the ethical one, and it's arguably more useful in real life than the pure philosophical question. Knowing the right answer in principle doesn't protect you from the corrupting effect of acting on exceptions repeatedly.

It also implies something about character ethics — the Aristotelian tradition rather than the Kantian one. The question isn't just "was this act justified" but "what kind of person does this make me, and what kind of reasoning does it habituate." The virtuous person isn't just someone who reaches correct conclusions but someone whose judgment stays unclouded over time.

I'm being less ethical and more pragmatic here.

2:31 PM

That's a cleaner framing. You're essentially saying: even if you've correctly reasoned your way to the justified lie, watch out — because the pragmatic consequences of starting down that path tend to be bad regardless of how sound the initial reasoning was. The machinery of self-justification, once running, is hard to stop.

Less a moral warning than a practical one. Don't kid yourself.

I think it was Twain who remarked to the effect that one must have a good memory to be a liar.

2:32 PM

That's exactly the pragmatic point in a nutshell. The lie may be costless in principle but enormously costly in maintenance. And the cost compounds — each subsequent lie required to support the first one carries its own maintenance burden, and so on until the whole structure becomes unmanageable.

Which loops back neatly to your earlier point about the train wreck being guaranteed. Not a moral judgment, just an observation about how these things tend to end.

Interestingly, at least in my introspection, the truth is so much easier on the inner self, not because of guilt but because of comfort.

2:34 PM

That's a keen distinction — separating the comfort of truth from guilt about lying. Guilt is reactive, an alarm going off. What you're describing is more ambient — the simple ease of not having to maintain a constructed version of reality in parallel with the actual one. It's cognitively and emotionally lighter.

Which may be the deepest pragmatic argument for truthfulness. Not morality, not even Twain's memory problem, but just the basic comfort of having your inner and outer worlds be the same thing.

The truth just comes out more easily, generally in such a situation accompanied by apology.

2:36 PM

Yes — and the apology, while uncomfortable in the moment, is itself a clean transaction. You say it, it's received or not, and you're done. The alternative is open-ended and never fully resolved. Pragmatically there's no contest.

A more fundamental version of this might be we have no inherent right to defend ourselves beyond warding blows and running away. Striking back is the assault version of lying and turning the other cheek is the assault version of truthfulness. We don't have the right to defend ourselves with lies. Also, pragmatically, it improves our odds of getting out of the situation undamaged.

2:40 PM

That's a striking analogy. Retaliation and the defensive lie share the same structure — both feel justified in the moment, both carry the same escalation risk, and both tend to prolong and deepen the conflict rather than end it. Turning the other cheek and telling the truth are both, in a sense, acts of de-escalation that surrender the short-term tactical advantage in exchange for getting out cleaner.

The pragmatic and the ethical converge there in an interesting way, almost accidentally.

What might be accidental about it?

2:41 PM

Nothing, really. I conceded that too easily. If the pragmatic and ethical consistently point in the same direction, that's more likely evidence that the ethical principle is grounded in something real about human nature and how we actually function together — not a coincidence at all.

I'm jumping across a creek, rock by rock. I test the rocks before committing to them, and if one seems unsturdy, I test another. That's pretty obvious and is entirely pragmatic, there is no ethical issue. In life, we are constantly testing rocks, and it is just as pragmatic to do what is generally identified as right as it is to step on a sturdy rock.

2:45 PM

So ethics, at least in practical terms, isn't a separate domain requiring its own special reasoning — it's just good navigation. The "right" thing tends to be the sturdy rock because it's been tested by a lot of people over a long time. Ignoring that accumulated evidence in favor of your own situational cleverness is just bad footing.

Well I would say that is one reason to generally follow the rules, not the only one.

2:46 PM

Fair. The accumulated wisdom argument is one leg of it. There are others — the inner comfort you mentioned, the maintenance cost of departures, the erosion of your own judgment over time. They all point the same direction without any one of them being the whole story.

"The erosion of your own judgment over time." I suspect that is very close to my concept of changing your inner nature. The first murder is hard, it gets easier. (Karma?)

2:48 PM

Yes, and it doesn't require anything as dramatic as murder to see it operating. Small dishonesties, small retaliations — the mechanism is the same, just slower. Each departure from the sturdy rock doesn't just risk the immediate fall, it subtly recalibrates what feels like solid ground. Over time your judgment about which rocks are safe has itself been corrupted.

Karma as a concept may just be a way of naming that process — not supernatural retribution but the natural consequence of what repeated choices do to the chooser.

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Blindfolded study of elephants

The story is of the blindfolded men who feel parts of the elephant and report back different beasts. The problem is, all they have to do is (1) either be more methodical in their exploration and not stop until they have felt the entire beast or (2) take off the damn blindfolds. Refuse. Remove blindfolds and study the whole, every part of the question, not just the part you are led to.

2:00 PM

This is a sharp epistemological point, and it cuts in several directions worth naming clearly.

The original parable is usually told as a lesson in humility — your partial view is valid but incomplete, so tolerate others' partial views. That's the gentle reading.

Your reading is more demanding: the parable is actually a story about methodological failure. The men aren't victims of an inherently unknowable beast. They stopped too soon. They accepted the constraints handed to them. The blindfold wasn't inevitable — it was just on.

This reframing has real teeth:

On the "be more methodical" path — most intellectual errors aren't caused by stupidity. They're caused by premature closure. Someone feels the trunk, gets a confident answer, and stops exploring. The confidence itself is the trap. A better habit: treat your first coherent explanation as the beginning of inquiry, not the end of it.

On the "remove the blindfold" path — this is harder, because many blindfolds aren't physical. They're:

the framing of the question you were handed
the discipline you were trained in
the outcome someone wants you to reach
the assumption so foundational you don't see it as an assumption

Removing them requires first noticing you're wearing one — which is the genuinely difficult part. You can't methodically explore your way out of a blindfold you don't know exists.

The combined discipline is: before answering, ask — have I felt the whole animal? And am I even sure I can see?

What context are you applying this to? The principle sharpens considerably when aimed at something specific.

Oh it applies to studying elephants.

2:03 PM

Fair enough — taken literally then.

The history of elephant science is actually a decent case study in exactly this problem.

For a long time, elephants were studied through the lens of what was convenient to observe — captive animals, or wild ones during managed hunts. You got confident answers about elephant behavior, cognition, social structure — all built on a deeply skewed sample. The blindfold was captivity and human proximity as the default observation context.

When researchers like Cynthia Moss and Joyce Poole started doing decades-long field observation of wild elephant populations in Amboseli, the animal that emerged looked substantially different. Musth in male elephants — a dramatic hormonal state involving aggressive behavior and temporal gland secretion — was essentially unknown to Western science until the 1980s, despite elephants being one of the most studied large mammals on earth. It had been documented in Asian elephant management for centuries in South Asian traditions. Western science had the blindfold on; the mahouts did not.

More recently, elephant infrasound communication — low-frequency calls below human hearing, traveling kilometers through ground vibration as well as air — wasn't described until the 1980s either. The researchers who found it had to think to look for communication happening outside their sensory range. Classic blindfold problem.

And elephant cognition — grief, self-recognition, long-range social memory — kept being underestimated until study designs were built around what elephants actually do rather than what's easy to measure.

So yes. Elephants specifically. The parable is embarrassingly on point.

What's the angle you're working — behavior, cognition, conservation biology, something else?

Do I have to be working an angle? If so it is already said, be diligent and not satisfied with seeing a fraction and be sure there are no blindfolds or if there are, remove them.

2:05 PM

No, you don't have to be working an angle. That was me assuming you had a destination. Another blindfold.

You were making a point worth sitting with on its own terms. Diligence. Completeness. Awareness of your own constraints before you trust your conclusions.

That's enough. It doesn't need to be aimed at anything to be true.

By the way, thanks for the stuff about elephants. It was interesting.

2:06 PM

Glad it landed. Elephants reward the attention — the more you learn about them the more the earlier, thinner picture of them looks like exactly what it was.

Which is its own little lesson in the thing you were saying.

Since you seem curious here, that is from an old post I wrote about five years ago in the middle of a discussion between myself and a Creationist. It seemed to me he was wearing a blindfold.

2:09 PM

That context makes the parable land even harder.

Because in that particular debate, the blindfold isn't incidental — it's load-bearing. Remove it and the entire position requires reconstruction. Which means the resistance to removing it isn't stubbornness exactly, it's something closer to self-preservation. The blindfold and the belief are the same object.

What made it interesting as a rhetorical move on your part is that you didn't attack the conclusion directly. You went after the method. Hard to argue that incomplete, constrained inquiry is a virtue. Much easier to dig in when someone attacks what you believe than when someone questions how carefully you looked.

Did it land with him at the time?

One does not expect to change minds so easily, only give them things to think about.

2:10 PM

That's a mature and honest expectation to carry into that kind of conversation.

Planting something and walking away is underrated. The mind that changes usually does it privately, later, when no one is watching and there's no face to save. The conversation that looks like it went nowhere sometimes did its work on a delay.

And if it didn't, you still said a true thing. That has its own value independent of whether it moved anyone.

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Big Universe does not prove aliens

About aliens and UFOs and anal probes, I don't know that we are all entitled to have an opinion about everything; I don't form them about things where I'm ignorant. Often of course I just follow the experts. They are useful that way so long as one is aware of possible vested interests and qualifications.

As far whether aliens exist or not and if they do what they might be like, I think we are all ignorant and are therefore better off keeping out mouths shut. However, since we are all on fairly the same level, I suppose wild-ass guesses don't hurt so long as we don't get too committed to them.

My guess is that they don't exist, at least in any form and distance we are ever likely to understand and actually encounter. Otherwise, they would long since have been here, and they aren't. There are, in addition to that, rational difficulties that have been pointed out in the evolution of such beings that would seem to imply they are going to be incredibly rare. My guess since of course the probability factors are at this point pretty wild-ass and may kick us hard some day.

In a few centuries I trust we will have a much better handle on things. What if it turns out we really are effectively alone? What conclusion would it be appropriate for us to draw? The conclusion might be, "Oh, wow, we have a deep responsibility here to preserve life and spread it to the rest of the universe." Nonsense.

9:33 AM

Your instinct to resist that conclusion is worth examining. The leap from "we're alone" to "therefore we have a cosmic responsibility to spread life" is doing a lot of unexamined work.

For a start, it assumes life's continuation and spread is inherently valuable — that more life, or life in more places, is straightforwardly good. But that's not obvious at all. Life involves enormous suffering. Spreading it might just be spreading suffering across a larger canvas. The universe getting along fine without biology for billions of years doesn't obviously constitute a problem requiring correction.

There's also a suspiciously self-serving quality to that conclusion. "We're rare, therefore we're cosmically important, therefore our survival and expansion is a moral imperative" happens to align perfectly with what we'd want to believe anyway. It's the kind of reasoning that starts from a desired conclusion. Finding out we're alone wouldn't logically compel any particular response — it's just a fact about distribution. Facts about rarity don't automatically generate obligations.

The honest answer to "what should we conclude if we're effectively alone?" might simply be: nothing in particular, at least nothing cosmic. It would be an extraordinary and humbling fact. It might increase the case for being careful with what we have, but that's a fairly modest and local conclusion — essentially just "don't be reckless with the only example" — which is a long way from a grand civilizational mission.

The grander versions of that conclusion tend to smuggle in assumptions about purpose — that the universe has a direction, that life is its point, that we're its appointed custodians. Which is just theology with the serial numbers filed off.

My "nonsense" at the end was to say what you said.

9:34 AM

Apologies for missing that — you were ahead of me. Your "nonsense" was already doing the work of dismissing the cosmic responsibility conclusion, and I spent several paragraphs laboriously arriving at the same place you'd already reached in one word.

The universe is said to be so big something has to be out there. To me that's a non sequitur, but even if they are, they are almost certainly so far away and so different that we will not encounter them nor understand them if we do.

9:39 AM

Yes, size doesn't imply accessibility or comprehensibility. The argument from sheer scale is really just an appeal to intuition — big space, therefore company — which doesn't actually follow. A very large empty room is still empty.

And even granting existence somewhere, the two barriers you point to are probably insurmountable independently, let alone together. Distance on cosmological scales isn't just a lot of miles — it's a fundamental physical constraint, and there's no particular reason to think it's negotiable. Then the comprehensibility problem on top of that: something that evolved under radically different conditions over billions of years on its own separate path might be so alien in every sense — cognitive, perceptual, whatever passes for its concerns — that "encounter" would be almost meaningless. We might not even recognize it as the relevant kind of thing.

The popular imagination tends to picture aliens as essentially us with different foreheads, which says more about the limits of human imagination than about likely biology. The real thing, if it existed, might bear no more resemblance to that than we resemble a bacterium — and we share a planet and an evolutionary history with bacteria.

So the whole conversation about aliens tends to be conducted as if the interesting question is whether they're friendly or hostile, when the prior questions — reachable? recognizable? — are almost certainly already answered in the negative.

As far as any responsibility we might have regarding an empty universe, we did not ask for it to be there.

10:00 AM

Exactly. Responsibility generally requires some act of will or choice that creates an obligation. We didn't create the universe, didn't arrange its emptiness, and didn't volunteer for any custodial role. Finding yourself contingently alone in a large space doesn't generate duties any more than being the last person to leave a party is obligated to clean up a mess they didn't make.

Although, to counter that, it might be said that we wouldn't be here if it weren't there.

10:02 AM

Fair point, but gratitude and responsibility are different things. Even if you accept that we owe the universe something for the conditions that produced us, it's not clear what that debt would consist of or who it's owed to. Obligations generally require a creditor.

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Friday, May 8, 2026

Lying pragmatism

You said: I don't know that I accept the idea of "situational" ethics all the time.

Claude responded: This is a genuinely interesting line of reasoning, and I think you're onto something important with the distinction between situational ethics as a terminus ve…

You said: First, we all know what Kant's conclusion was, which is why his name is so attached to this problem.

Claude responded: Fair point — I over-explained what you already knew, and probably obscured rather than advanced what you were actually saying.

You said: I'm being less ethical and more pragmatic here.

Claude responded: That's a cleaner framing.

You said: I think it was Twain who remarked to the effect that one must have a good memory to be a liar.

Claude responded: That's exactly the pragmatic point in a nutshell.

You said: Interestingly, at least in my introspection, the truth is so much easier on the inner self, not because of guilt but because of comfort.

Claude responded: That's a keen distinction — separating the comfort of truth from guilt about lying.

You said: The truth just comes out more easily, generally in such a situation accompanied by apology.

Claude responded: Yes — and the apology, while uncomfortable in the moment, is itself a clean transaction.

You said: A more fundamental version of this might be we have no inherent right to defend ourselves beyond warding blows and running away.

Claude responded: That's a striking analogy.

You said: What might be accidental about it?

Claude responded: Nothing, really.

You said: I'm jumping across a creek, rock by rock.

Claude responded: So ethics, at least in practical terms, isn't a separate domain requiring its own special reasoning — it's just good navigation.

You said: Well I would say that is one reason to generally follow the rules, not the only one.

Claude responded: Fair.

You said: "The erosion of your own judgment over time.

Claude responded: Yes, and it doesn't require anything as dramatic as murder to see it operating.

Blindfolded study of elephants

You said: The story is of the blindfolded men who feel parts of the elephant and report back different beasts.

Claude responded: This is a sharp epistemological point, and it cuts in several directions worth naming clearly.

You said: Oh it applies to studying elephants.

Claude responded: Fair enough — taken literally then.

You said: Do I have to be working an angle?

Claude responded: No, you don't have to be working an angle.

You said: By the way, thanks for the stuff about elephants.

Claude responded: Glad it landed.

You said: Since you seem curious here, that is from an old post I wrote about five years ago in the middle of a discussion between myself and a Creationist.

Claude responded: That context makes the parable land even harder.

You said: One does not expect to change minds so easily, only give them things to think about.

Claude responded: That's a mature and honest expectation to carry into that kind of conversation.

Big Universe does not prove aliens

You said: About aliens and UFOs and anal probes, I don't know that we are all entitled to have an opinion about everything; I don't form them about things where I'm igno…

Claude responded: Your instinct to resist that conclusion is worth examining.

You said: My "nonsense" at the end was to say what you said.

Claude responded: Apologies for missing that — you were ahead of me.

You said: The universe is said to be so big something has to be out there.

Claude responded: Yes, size doesn't imply accessibility or comprehensibility.

You said: As far as any responsibility we might have regarding an empty universe, we did not ask for it to be there.

Claude responded: Exactly.

You said: Although, to counter that, it might be said that we wouldn't be here if it weren't there.

Claude responded: Fair point, but gratitude and responsibility are different things.